Q & A: I desperately need marriage counseling for two young people ... please respect my honesty ...?

question of Valeria Fountain : I desperately need marriage counseling for two young people ... please respect my honesty ...? Here's my outpouring. Please to not only get to answer a divorce or get advice, because I need more. I met my husband in June 2008. He worked in the store in the mall across from me. We were both 23rd I was now (as) sexually attracted to and exchanged numbers. The next day we hung and watched a movie and went out, and he pushed me for sex, but I said no. He smoked cigarettes and drank alcohol, but knew that I Straight-Edge. We talked from time to time, I flaked it a few times, and we ended up not speaking again until maybe the end of late June 2008. He ended up getting arrested 11th July 2008 and I was the first person he called. I immediately felt my heart break - there was something in him that I needed and I really cared about him. He was in jail for almost 3 months and we wrote each other EVERY DAY. I visited him 2 days a week and would like to sit outside the prison window, when he did not check out because I could see it myself. He rose from 24th September, and we (through the course of our letters and phone calls) was inseparable. He asked me to marry him and I said yes. We were married 27th September. When he got out he said he would change his life. Not to smoke, to drink, he continued to stay away from meth (He was clean for 9 months at the time) and now ... We have been married seven months, I'm in the 7th Months pregnant, he is now smoking, drinking alcohol, disappear every weekend and will not tell me where he is. He has once meth relapse. I'm no saint in this. Because of my suspicions, I look up their telephone records, I go through his cell phone, text and strange numbers that he called late at night and asked who it is. He lies about what their friends' house, he will be at, he tells me he will be (for example) at home by 11 clock on Friday evening and not come home until Sunday morning. I do not think he is cheating - it has my name tattooed on his neck and his wedding ring on his hand line is tanned. He swears he lives in the movie 8 Mile. He wants to be a rapper (he is ...), so he knows (after he decided to be honest, finally, where he goes every weekend) goes and raps with his homeboys. He says he is because he'll hate his friends, but I know him say - I did not marry a rapper. I married a man who is just as affectionate as I was. No alcohol drinking, smoking, lying, idiot, which would leave me alone every weekend while I'm at home, 7 months pregnant. We have sex every few days and when I turn it with my need to face sex daily (at the beginning of marriage we had sex three or four times a day), he says he's cool. The truth came out when we argued in the car two nights ago he told me to get in the back seat of his car and he took me to eat something to get, as he drove Sonic and freestyled with a 32 oz Miller High Life in his lap. I begged him not to drink with me (and our unborn son) in the car, plus he is on probation so ... but if we leave Sonic and sat in a parking lot, I told him I wanted to sit in the passenger seat forward. So I got out and he started on me because he did not sexually satisfied (which I never said .. just that we do not do enough.) Thinks, and I said no, we do not have sex at all. And he went and I was barefoot in the parking lot at 11 clock. I did not know what to do - he raced up to me really fast and screamed out the window he goes back to win 4 or 5 black guys were f ** k (I) went well and then at the gas station nearby and remained a man likely to ask whether he wanted to have sex with me. I started the grocery store to walk to use the phone call to his sister and he came back and asked the shopping cart child if he wanted his wife **** free sl * tty p * ssy. Finally, he told me to get back into the car and we came home and lay in bed. I was so angry that I started talking so nasty to him and begged him with tears, as he did his wife and the mother of his child is a bitch and comment on my body like him and he said it was true call. In short, my husband and I have ever been physically, we are always emotional another abused, but at the same time fighting, he will get tattooed at home with my name on his neck and I feel sick in him should not think in my or our son's life. How I can stop, so my controlling and controlling the behavior lead him to act this way? What can we do ...? We are not trailer trash Hicks but I swear I feel like it sometimes Best Answer. Wed response of Fatima Campbell
That's some serious stuff! But what I have to say is, if a man (her husband) to be considered by you and embarrass you argue that he did not care for you. Not to say he does not love you, but if he he wants to protect you and leave you in no way harms care (without shoes, outside). He made a private, which could have been avoided public argument and inviting random people in business y'all. Yes, he really needs to work his drug problems, because this is not something you would like your child should be raised to about

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